Life is all about decision-making. We are where we are because of decisions we’ve made. Our decisions, along with our responses to other people’s decisions—which are also our decisions—are about the only thing we can control in life. And, our decisions determine our story. That being the case, we should stop at every decision-making juncture and consider the story we want to tell. Perhaps more compelling, we should consider what story we want told about us. The good news is that you get to decide. But you decide one decision at a time because you write the story of your life. One decision at a time.
Your decisions determine the direction and quality of your life. If that’s not motivation enough to focus more on the choices you make, consider this. Your decisions also determine the direction and quality of other people’s lives—not just today but for generations to come.
Question #1: The Integrity Question: Am I being honest with myself? Confirmation Bias is the tendency we have to look for information that supports what we already want to do. It empowers us to see what we want and tune out everything to the contrary, which can result in faulty decisions.
Question #2: The Legacy Question: What story do you want to tell? When this crisis, this opportunity, this temptation is in the rearview mirror...when it's reduced to a story I tell...what story do I want to tell? Which of the available options do I want as part of my legacy?
Question #3: The Conscience Question: Is there a tension that deserves my attention? Sometimes when making a decision, an option we're considering creates a tension inside us even though we have no idea why. It's important to explore, rather than ignore, your conscience.
Question #4: The Maturity Question: What is the wise thing to do? It's probable that your greatest regret was preceded by a series of decisions what weren't wrong or illegal, but they were unwise. The purpose of the Maturity Question is not to stop you from doing something wrong. It's to keep you from doing something unwise, which is a gateway to regret.
Question #5: The Relationship Question: What does love require of me? This question introduces inescapable clarity to just about every moral, ethical, and relational decision you will bump up against. It should inform how we date, parent, boss, manage, and coach. It should form a perimeter around what we say and do in our roles as spouses, coworkers, and neighbors.