Most women think they have to settle for a life of duty, trying hard to "do these ten things, and you will be a godly woman," yet feeling like a failure. The message of Captivating is that the desires you had as a little girl and the longings you still feel are telling you of the life God created you to live. He offers to come now, as the Hero of your story—to rescue your heart and release you to live as a fully alive and feminine woman. A woman who is truly captivating.
As women, many of us have this nagging sense of failing to measure up, a feeling of not being good enough as a woman. I am not enough, and I am too much at the same time. We feel unseen, unsought, and uncertain, and the message from both a driven culture and a driven church is "try harder." Learn how to guard the most important thing about you...your heart.
Eve was not created as an afterthought, but as God's final, pinnacle work of creation. Yet, her first impulse after her failure was to self-protect, hide her true self, and close herself off from the love of God. We need courage to walk away from the ways we live out of fear.
Some women's lives look perfect to us from a distance. But if we get close, we will learn the truth. God invites us to grieve our wounds, receive his comfort, and then his healing. But to be healed, to be set free from our captivity, we must let God tenderly open our wounds and expose them to his light, love, and truth.
There is an assault on every woman's heart, because we have an enemy. There is a fierceness that God placed in women and this is what it is for. Men aren’t our enemy. Women aren’t the enemy. But we have one. There is no reason to fear him, but we must not close your eyes, plug our ears and hope he just goes away. He won’t. We must resist.
Beauty is a difficult subject for women to talk about. Our desire for beauty has caused most of us countless tears and untold pain. Apart from God, beauty gets twisted, used and abused. This isn’t about dresses and makeup. This is about our hearts—the very core of our being. We desire to possess a beauty that is worth pursuing, worth fighting for, a beauty that is core to who we truly are.
A woman doesn’t come alive being merely useful. We want our lives to matter and to matter deeply. We want to be needed. Irreplaceable. If you don’t know what your irreplaceable role is, what has God has written on your heart? What did you dream of when you were young? What has been assaulted? What lies have been spoken to you? These wounds often reveal the secret of your glory and what you are meant to bring to the world.