Build your second marriage on more than a hope and a prayer. Sixty percent of second marriages fail, but yours can be among the ones that succeed. Relationship experts Les and Leslie Parrott show how you can beat the odds with flying colors and build a future together that is everything marriage can and ought to be. This course includes material for couples where one or both individuals are entering marriage for the second time.
Rebounding, rebellion, escape, loneliness, obligation, sex, or pressure are not likely predictors of a happy second marriage. A successful second marriage is motivated not out of a deficit, but out of companionship. To love and be loved by another person is perhaps the single most satisfying experience on earth.
Every difficult marriage is plagued by misconceptions about what marriage should be. Some of the most harmful myths include, we enter marriage expecting the same things, everything good will get better, everything bad will disappear, my spouse should make me whole, and adjustment to married life occurs more quickly in remarriage.
Love is fluid—it is comprised of three components that change in their balance and priority over time. Passion is the physical component of love. Intimacy is the emotional component of love. And Commitment is the willful ingredient of love. You will define love in your own terms, and compare your definition with your partner's. Learn how to cultivate the three qualities of love, working especially on the ones you emphasize the least.
How do you typically respond when unexpected circumstances interrupt your plans? The one habit that can make or break your relationship is the capacity to adjust to things beyond your control. The most important quality of a marriageable person is the habit of happiness. The toxins that threaten happiness in marriage are blame, resentment and self-pity.
There are some basic skills for communicating effectively with your spouse. First, clarify content to keep from jumping to conclusions. Men and women use different types of talking: Men use report talk, women use rapport talk. Second, reflect feelings to make your spouse feel understood. Combined with good eye contact, these skills convey genuine caring. Without being genuine, the best communication techniques in the world will fall flat.
Everybody knows that men and women are different. But what most newlywed couples don't realize, until they cross the proverbial threshold, is just how pronounced that difference is. There is a difference in the way we solve problems: men want to solve them, women want to explore them. In terms of our needs, men have a need for shared activity, and women have a need to be cherished.
Conflict is inevitable. Now matter how "in love" a couple is, friction eventually emerges. But the savvy couple knows how to use this conflict to their advantage. Negative feelings that get buried have a high rate of resurrection. Healthy conflict avoids criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling.
Stepfamily secondary family, blended family, combined family, extended family, expanded family, nontraditional family—whatever your situation with children in your new marriage, this session gives you tools for building a marriage—and a family—that withstands the predictable jostles and jolts you are bound to encounter.
You can do everything right in marriage and still wake up one morning and wonder, "Is this it?" You will continually be looking for depth and meaning in your relationship until you explore your spiritual nature—how the two of you walk together with God. And did you know? ...Couples who pray together report a higher satisfaction with their sex lives.