Do you find yourself spending a lot of time figuring out when to say yes and when to say no, thinking about how to manage your time, reduce stress, do your best for your family, find a little time for yourself? Lysa TerKeurst found herself in that same situation until she learned the power of “the best yes,” the choice that shapes all of our other choices. In this six-session study, Lysa uses her signature mix of transparency, Scripture-laced insight, and "been there" humor to suggest usable strategies for making wise decisions day by day.
Wisdom and folly both want to control our lives, and we have to make a choice about which one will. The decisions we make dictate the schedules we keep; the schedules we keep determine the life we live; the life we live determines how we spend our soul. A Best Yes decision is a choice that allows us to play our part in God’s plan — to spend our energy, focus, and passion on the assignments that are really ours.
The decisions we make today matter. Every decision points us in the direction we are about to travel. No decision is an isolated choice. It’s a chain of events. So we’ve got to get good at chasing down our decisions. We need to look ahead to see where they will take us — and make sure that’s really where we want to go. Discerning our Best Yes is something we become capable of doing as we layer knowledge and depth of insight into our lives.
The process of becoming wise is compared to an athlete who practices daily to improve in her sport; getting better in anything requires repetition and constantly challenging yourself. You can practice and improve your skills in areas where you lack direction (not having the wisdom you need), or where you lack follow-through (not applying the wisdom you have).
There are two different kinds of no — the small no and the big no. A small no is one we can give quickly. The big no is what happens when we put off saying the small no to the point that it becomes harder to give, is more painful than if it had been given earlier, or is now nearly impossible to give. Learn how to say no to the prevailing culture of busyness in order to care for the most important aspects of your life.
There are four traps of people pleasing: fear of rejection, fear of disappointing people, the need to manage perceptions, and the need for approval. When you alter your Best Yes decision because you're too afraid to disappoint someone, it just wears you out. Saying yes all the time won't make you Wonder Woman. It will make you a worn-out woman.
Paul links the purpose of wisdom directly to our relationship with Christ. How might it change the way you approach your decisions if the first question you asked was not, “How can I choose what’s best in this situation?” but, “How can I choose Christ in this situation and get to know Him better?” Even with momentary lapses of wisdom, your Best Yes decisions can be so deeply woven into the fabric of your life that your failures won't destroy your legacy.